Category: Dating and Relationships
Saying goodbye is so hard. But I have to to a friend and it's just so hard. The 9 months I've known blind-bandit have been a emotional roller coaster. We dated briefly and when that went sour I tried so hard to keep a friendship going for the longest time. When he wanted to talk on the phone or the net I had to do most of the communicating. Things were good at least I thought it was. But when times got rough or when I wanted to see him again he just fell off the cliff using excuses. When you want something it's like having to strangle him to get what you want. What I don't understand is why he puts time for his other friends even those who live in Reading then me. I'm at the half way mark or at least he passed my town a few times. That kind of hurted me more then ever that he'll go to great lengths to be with other people then me. And it hurts. I have no respect anymore for dating men and I know that one day my time will come to meet my prince charming but my god I really can't get over him, the feelings haven't left me. Usually when I break up with a guy they evaporate with time usually within a year. Even if it's just a friendship they'd go away and they hadn't. I just feel like he used me like a pawn, just to keep from going after this one chick Heather in the beginnings of his and I's friendship. The more he and I talked, the more comfortable I felt, the more I wanted him, the more he wanted me. But when his ex Jen wanted him back things fell apart. When that relationship fell, it felt like he wanted to hold onto me. I thought things were gonna look up. Only problem is he focused on other people but me. If he cared about me that much he'd be in my arms right now. I'm not desperate, I'm just releasing hurt and anger. It wont get me far but I just feel I need to get rid of these feelings now. We've spoken on the zone on and off and it's like I had restrictions now, or if I wanted to reserve time, I had to do it in advance then even still he couldn't keep his word. I feel I did the right thing by blocking him perminately but even still I have doubts. I just wanted one visit, to see how he and I could really interact without his or Is friends being near us. Being alone with him, hoping to see if I could rekindle things. I think he has feelings for someone else but wont even admit to them. I don't understand what I did wrong in this friendship or why I deserved this. Ok, I'm done now.
Awa, I'm really sorry. I have made the experience myself that saying goodbye is really hard.
It is, and it sucks. But sometimes you don't have a choice, otherwise you continue to make it harder on you the person to move on.
it's so hard to move on.
saying goodbye is one of the hardest things in life
It's only as hard as you make it.
I feel somewhat better. After releasing all of that, I hadn't thought of him much. It's too early to tell weather or not I can do this but I know I have alot of supportive friends who will help me if I ever need the shoulder.
it is hard. sometimes it hurts but sometimes its for the best. saying good bye applies to a bf/gf relationship, friends, classmates, family and anyone close to your heart. hope you feel better.
The topic was moved to the "dating/relationships" category since this is more reflective of the subject matter. Hope all is well soon.
hugs blindvi, we've most of us been there, some of us are just more open, but yeh, it does suck, an yeh, it is frustrating when people say all that crap like, time is a great heeler, but in reality, annoying as it is, it's true. If ya wanna chat, it's cool with me. Take care
For me, this was the 3rd goodbye I had to say to a guy. Sometimes I think to myself "What am I doing wrong that scares men off? Or not want me?" I usually stay under the radar but I guess sometimes that has its disadvantages. This relationship I had that I let go of perviously went down because of distance. I wish I could find a guy that lives in my area but those are so hard to find most of the men I meet are out of state.
Oh my goodness, saying goodbye is like the hardest thing ever. I had to do that about a month ago, and my tears became my only companion for quite a while. You'll find your guy!
Saying goodbye is not ever easy. When you are pierced bye that word, the wounds take forever to heal, or at least it seems that way. It's so easy for people to say "move on" But we all deal with pain in different ways. My biggest fear is with all the hurt rejection, shattered hopes and dreams, and hell that I've been put through, I'm going to be so scared to love or trust a man. After you hear the same words over and over to only result in heartache, How do you believe? So, in escence, I understand all of this. Love is never easy, especially when you hear goodbye.